wE DO ALL KNOW THAT WE LOVE AND WE HAVE PRIDE. but sometimes when you love more and deep the tendency is you lose your pride which sometimes make a person "martir", vis versa when you chose pride you lose the love.
The big question is "What is important LOVE or PRIDE?
Why can't just we take it fairly we love at the same time we do have pride....
I have a close friend who told me that: WHEN YOU LOVE A PERSON YOU SHOULD NOT GIVE THE 100% OF YOUR LOVE, YOU SHOULD LeaVE SOME FOR YOURSELF. I ask her why, and she told me that when you love someone its like loving yourself, before you can love anyone you should learn first to love yourself.
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When you love make it sure there still pride for yourself. What is important love or pride? Both of them are important, it’s depending on you on how you balanced it. You should know how to balance the love and pride because once you become one sided, one of them may lose. You already said it’s either the love or the pride. But once you knew how to handle them it is not hard for you to control things. Being a martir is an always a choice. Your friend is right love can still be love even though it can’t reach the 100 percent. No one can say it’s a perfect love when you put your 100 percent. In the end you, yourself and nobody can fix yourself. You should know how to love yourself. I believed you can’t love others if you do not know how to love yourself. Be matured enough to balance your love and your pride.
I’ve never experience anything about love. However in my own little way I could share with you somehow my knowledge of the experiences I’ve learn from my friends. All I know is that when you love there is always pride left for yourself. Sometimes when you love you’re not using your brain even you’re hurting still you don’t care about your pride. Therefore when you lose your pride when you love it’s because you are afraid of losing something. People can love and have pride at the same time just try to let go because there are things in this world that do not last. Otherwise it’s like when you’re gambling don’t give anything but leave something on your pocket. So, if you’ll lose the game you will be relieve that there’s something left for yourself. Love with pride because nothing will lose.
i can never speak for others but i can be sure of my thoughts about this-Love or Pride? i agree when you said that you'll lose either of the two in a relationship..that is when partners tend to forget these three things; sweetness(whatever happens, though years have passed, keep the fire burning!); space(i don't know if it works for you but i guess a little time away from each other makes you miss each others' company); and always find something new to look forward to. this may help you feel like new lovers again.
also, i don't believe in pride. for me, it doesn't make you a less person if you love fully. why? because you can always give out a 100% love and pirde for yourself and same amount for your partner. for yourself and for him were never the same..
Actually, if I were to choose between the two, I would definitely go for love (specifically romantic love). Yes it’s true that when you love, you shouldn’t give everything. You also have to set aside some of it for yourself. But the question is: could we that? It’s so easy to say yet so hard to do. How could we love unconditionally if we won’t give it all? Hay! I actually don’t know why is it that when I love, I couldn’t even use my pride. There were times that I needed it but I chose to throw it away. Anyway at the end of the day, it would be him who would know how much love I’ve given him and how much love he has to give me in return. I don’t need to ask for it. Remember, love is unconditional. =)
wow it seems that I can relate to your sentiments ah/ ehe I woul like to share with you my insights regarding that matter. I've been with my boyfriend for almost three years and half. So I would agree that in every relationship it is possible that sometimes PRIDE reigns most especially in some difficult situations like conflicts. I must admit that I'm a type of person that is more likely to have this thing. sometimes i stand on my perception that i shouldn't make myself down. I should always be above them. But My bf taught me how to become more open, be humble ang understanding coz what's important is that in the end true love still reigns.
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